Leadership Coaching2024-06-19T15:31:31+08:00

I help thoughtful leaders go from self-doubt to self-belief.

Many thoughtful leaders feel overwhelmed in the chaotic world of work.

But thoughtful leadership is exactly what we need more of.

I want to see more thoughtful leaders (like you) doing well. Through coaching, I can help you:

  • Believe in yourself and feel more comfortable leading
  • Get clear on your goals, options and priorities
  • Solve problems and make good decisions; and
  • Learn leadership skills and gain greater self-awareness.

To find out more about working with me, simply click on the button below.

Ben Brearley

Happy clients are saying…

When I started coaching I was feeling overwhelmed with the new promotion and was questioning whether I was capable and deserving of such a role.

Working with Ben has really changed the way I look at myself. Ben has given me that confident mindset by listening and providing guidance and support in making me think deeply to work on not only myself but to deal with different situations using alternative tools.

I believe in myself again and I know that I can do it!

To work with Ben, who isn’t embroiled in the politics and business I’m working in, has been refreshing. I have really enjoyed working with Ben as he is easy to open up to and it’s also been fun.

I have valued the time spent with him and would love to work with him again in the the future.

Karen Shaw, Director of Marketing Communications, EnerSys, UK

One of the best outcomes of coaching with Ben was the opportunity to stop and think, which led to new perspectives on the workplace. I learnt a lot about myself and this challenged me to think about my behaviour and ways I can improve.

I came away from coaching sessions feeling more positive and this also was reflected in my work and my engagement with colleagues.

When I started coaching I was feeling confused about the direction of my career, then I worked with Ben and now I feel a lot clearer about what I want to do in future and what goals to prioritise in order to get there.

AA, Pharmaceuticals Industry, UK

From the outset, Ben made me feel comfortable to talk about my challenges and the areas of growth I sought. Through the coaching we covered a variety of topics including self-confidence, leadership and communication strategies.

Overall, a great experience. I would highly recommend Ben to anyone who is looking to invest back in themselves at any stage of their career. He focuses on building trust, getting the best out you, and shares tools that you can apply in everyday scenarios.

The ability to flush out the solution from within you is a great confidence booster.

Gunbir Sandhoo, Manager, Business Engagement

When I started coaching I was facing some changes in my life. I was not enjoying my role which I found stressful, pressured and not aligned to my values. My confidence was low.

Working with Ben helped me determine what is really important to me at this stage of my working life and work through various challenges. Some of these were immediately related to my role or how I deal with situations, but others related to taking steps to understand my options.

We revisited my goals regularly and when an opportunity for change presented itself, I felt equipped to make a considered (rather than reactive) decision.

What I like best is that I have created new habits and have strategies and tools to solve problems including taking small steps towards long term goals.

F. N., Resources Industry, Australia

When I started I felt overwhelmed by the enormity of the task and responsibilities I had taken on. Coaching allowed me to put things in perspective, to gain more clarity and to feel supported and listened to. It also normalised things and helped me test strategies in a neutral and supportive environment.

The discipline of taking time out to think about what I do, why I do it the way I have and how I can change has been very valuable. It has also forced me to articulate and externalise things I have been struggling with in isolation.

It was definitely worth investing the time in coaching. I feel the benefits are long-term even from a shorter term engagement.

SS, Sydney, Australia

When I started coaching, I had fairly low self-esteem in my role and low self-confidence that I could do my job properly.

Working with Ben gave me a new perspective and tools to help me approach difficult situations in a new way. Having Ben to discuss issues with and using the tools he gave me has given me more confidence to do my job in a way that I am happier with.

My biggest learning was that there is always another way to look at something; a way that can lead to a more constructive outcome.

Dom Mitchell, Operations Manager, Sweden

When I started coaching I was doubtful about my work. I had no one to provide feedback and discuss my thoughts on complex tasks and discussions.

Working with Ben has helped me work on those doubts and understand how to use my weaknesses to grow and improve how to tackle those tasks where I thought my knowledge was limited.

Having Ben as a coach allowed me to talk about issues I saw as limitations, and Ben helped me re-look at some situations and observe them as opportunities.

During our coaching sessions, we discussed ways I could approach difficult situations, which gave me clarity on problems I was facing and I was able to develop different options to move forward.

Marie Pillay, Project Coordinator, Thermomix, Australia

My biggest learning was that deep down, you already know what your obstacles are, but you need to be truthful and transparent in answering the questions that the coach will be teaching you to ask for yourself. Then you can make a plan to take the actions you need to overcome the obstacles.

Ben’s coaching enabled today’s obstacles to become tomorrow’s victories, and now tomorrow’s breakthroughs are today’s possibilities.

Ben’s coaching will enable you to find your greatest potential and maybe give you a little shove when you need to unleash it!

Project Manager, Utilities Sector, Perth, Australia

Even though I have been in leadership for a number of years, I was able to take away new strategies not only for myself, but for the leadership around me.

I felt like I had constructive items to take away from each session. It was also beneficial to spend time on self-reflection, which is something that most people don’t regularly prioritize.

Alisha M., Director, Michigan USA

Before Ben’s coaching I was extremely uncomfortable, fearful about my abilities and held myself back with my self-limiting beliefs. In such subtle ways, I was self-sabotaging and now that I work with Ben my confidence has soared and belief in myself has exponentially increased.

Ben is so clear and concise in his coaching and will be the most valuable time you can invest for your personal growth and development.

Irene Clark, Business Owner, Perth, Australia

Why work with me?

People like to work with me because I have a relaxed, calm and laid-back style which helps people feel supported, safe and not judged.

For many thoughtful leaders, this is the type of environment where you will be more likely to share your real thoughts, feelings, goals and aspirations. This is the type of environment that encourages excellent thinking, where you’ll get the best results from coaching.

I’m not a “ra-ra” high-energy type of coach. I’m not a coach who will “motivate you” by making you feel bad when you’re struggling with something.

I also won’t tell you what you should do, because you know your situation better than anybody else.

Instead, we’ll work out what’s holding you back, and the best way you can move forward, in a way that is most likely to work for you.

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How it Works

My coaching process is simple and flexible.

There is no “one size fits all” approach, so the specifics will entirely depend on what you want to achieve.

However, the common elements of all my coaching are shown below.

About Your Coach, Ben Brearley

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I am the founder of Thoughtful Leader and have led people, teams and projects in many different organisations and industries.

I’m a trained and accredited coach and I love helping thoughtful leaders do well in leadership roles.


Because that’s how we create better workplaces!

I have led, mentored and coached leaders and staff at a wide variety of organisations in industries including Healthcare, Government, Utilities, Technology, Resources and Construction.

I started my career as a software developer (a while ago now) and I’ve got an MBA and two bachelor degrees (some people like to know about these things).

I’ve personally experienced the good, the bad and the ugly of corporate life and leadership within a range of diverse teams, projects and organisations, and can help you too.

I started writing leadership articles on this website around 2014, and eventually my readers wanted me to coach them.

So I spent time getting qualified and that’s how I started my coaching journey.

Click the button below to learn how to get started and apply for your Discovery Coaching Session.

How to get started

If you think you might want to work with me, I invite you to apply for your complimentary Discovery Coaching Session, where you can spend the time in two ways. In this session, we can:

  • Work on a specific challenge you are having, to develop clear actionable steps to help you make progress; or
  • Create a vision, where we map out a clear picture of your ideal future and how to get there.

You will leave the Discovery Coaching Session with a sense of clarity and purpose and practical steps to move you forward.

STEP 1: Click the button below and fill out the form to apply for your Discovery Coaching session.

STEP 2: If I believe I can help you and we will be a good fit to work together, I will contact you to schedule the Discovery Coaching Session.

Note that there are limited coaching spots available, so I am unable to accept every application for coaching. I accept applications from leaders who are committed, thoughtful and who I believe I can assist.

Have questions? Here are some of the common ones people ask me.

Will we follow a set “coaching program” or agenda?2024-06-07T09:39:58+08:00

No, we won’t.

Coaching is not Training, where I teach you content in a structured format.

At the start of the coaching, we’ll spend some time doing some “visioning” work. That is – we’ll work out where you want to be at the end of the coaching engagement.

From this work, I’ll create a simple 1-page coaching vision document and send it to you.

This gives us a guide as to where we are headed. However, the vision is not set in stone, and we can deviate from it when something important comes up that you need to focus on (even if it’s not related to the vision).

My coaching is flexible and individual. There is no one-size-fits-all solution that will work for everybody.

Do I need to sign a coaching agreement?2024-04-03T14:55:54+08:00

Yes, I will provide a coaching agreement for you to sign. In summary, the coaching agreement contains:

  • The details of the coaching period and how often we will meet
  • Confidentiality provisions about how I will deal with information provided during the sessions
  • The price of the coaching as well as payment terms (unless this is a complimentary session)
  • The policy to reschedule or cancel coaching sessions
  • Ownership of any intellectual property generated; and
  • Details of the legal jurisdiction that would govern any disputes or claims.

I use the coaching agreement in all of my coaching engagements, so that there are no surprises. I have never had any issues with clients where there has been a dispute, but the contract exists in the very rare case that this might occur.

This is nothing to be nervous about – it simply describes the basics of our agreement so that we can get on with the real work – which is to help you achieve your goals and overcome your challenges.

Does coaching really work?2024-04-03T14:52:23+08:00

Coaching is an investment that really works. However, the benefits people achieve may be different from person to person.

Some of the benefits are explained here by the Institute of Coaching.

My own clients have gained the following benefits from working with me:

  • Increased Confidence and Self-Belief: Many clients express a newfound confidence in themselves and their abilities after coaching sessions. They feel more assured in their roles and capable of handling challenges.
  • Clarity and Perspective: Coaching provides a fresh perspective on workplace situations, leading to enhanced problem-solving abilities and a clearer sense of direction.
  • Improved Performance and Engagement: Many of my clients report feeling more positive and engaged in their work, leading to improved performance and better interactions with colleagues.
  • Personal Growth and Development: Coaching facilitates personal growth by encouraging self-reflection, challenging limiting beliefs, and providing tools to overcome obstacles. My clients develop new strategies and habits that contribute to long-term success and satisfaction.
  • Supportive Environment for Growth: My clients often appreciate having an impartial and supportive environment to discuss challenges, test strategies, and receive feedback.
  • Enhanced Leadership Skills: Coaching not only benefits my clients but also has a ripple effect on their leadership abilities. They gain new strategies and insights that can be applied not only to themselves but also to their teams and colleagues.

You can read more about what my clients have said on the Testimonials page here.

Do you coach for a set number of sessions?2024-04-03T14:59:31+08:00

It really depends on your requirements and preferences. In general, I find that coaching for 3 or 6 months at a time is the most effective. Over a time period like this, we can focus on your significant goals and challenges and you can achieve better results.

So, I have packages that focus on coaching for either 3, 6 or 12 months in duration, with a coaching session every 2 weeks. In this arrangement, we can be flexible with the session schedule, and if situations arise that require more attention, we can slot in extra sessions without worrying about any additional cost.

During this time period I will also provide email support when needed, and the ability to jump on shorter calls (at a time agreeable to both of us) if you have something important you need to work on.

I find that it’s generally not a good idea to have coaching sessions too frequently, because what happens in between the sessions is extremely important! You need the time to think about what we have discussed and to take action to achieve your goals.

What do I need to do to prepare for coaching?2024-04-03T15:02:28+08:00

To prepare for coaching, it is best if you:

  • Think about the actions you committed to in the previous session (if any) and whether you were able to complete them. If not, think about some of the factors that may have held you back.
  • Bring a challenge, goal or discussion topic for the coaching. This might be about a decision you need to make, an issue you want to solve, or something you need to plan out.
Is coaching just like a conversation?2024-04-03T15:04:58+08:00

Sure, we do talk during the session.

However, coaching is about outcomes – and to get outcomes, we need to focus. We need to work to identify the real issue that you’re having and what is holding you back.

If you come to the session with a list of problems a mile long, then we will never get anywhere. So I will help you narrow your focus so we can tackle specific topics to help you move forward.

I won’t give you loads of advice. Instead, I’ll ask you lots of questions to help you see your situation differently.

Then we’ll work together to develop actions that will help you move forward.

How much time will I need to spend?2024-04-03T15:06:36+08:00

It all depends. The coaching sessions themselves are up to 60 minutes in length, so that doesn’t take too long.

But it’s often what you do in between the sessions that matters. In each session, we usually work to develop practical steps for you to take after the session. This might involve trying out things at work or at home – and this may take more effort.

The only way you will get results is to put in the work outside of the coaching sessions. What this looks like exactly will depend on the topics that we discuss.