Are you an insecure leader? Watch for these 10 signs.

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Even the best leaders will stumble if they don’t feel confident. It is normal to be an insecure leader, sometimes. It is not OK to let your insecurity make you behave badly.

Watch out for these signs of an insecure leader. Be aware of your behaviour and stop yourself from doing silly things. Just because you feel insecure sometimes, does not mean you need to act like an insecure leader.

1. An insecure leader doesn’t take advice

Teams work better when they feel as if they can speak up freely. There is a better chance of improving your team’s performance when you aren’t the only person coming up with good ideas.

An insecure leader will stop taking input from their team, because they feel as if this lets people challenge their authority. This quickly turns into, it’s “my way or the highway”.

2. An insecure leader stops explaining their decisions

Confident leaders don’t mind explaining the reasons behind their decisions. This is because they feel they are confident, but also because they are not scared of being wrong.

An insecure leader will stop explaining decisions because it gives people a chance to criticise them. They think the less open they are, the less chance there is that anyone will criticise them.

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3. An insecure leader stops asking for help

When a leader feels insecure, they see asking for help as a sign of weakness. They feel as if they should know it all.

A reader told me a story recently. She had just started a new management position and hadn’t been trained in leadership before. She signed up for a new manager’s course at her new workplace. When she did, the organiser said it was a great move. “So many other managers here could use this course, but they never sign up for it.”

Why don’t the other managers sign up? Because they think they should “know it already”. Read more here about dropping your leadership ego.

4. An insecure leader doesn’t like feedback

Insecure leaders don’t like feedback, they fear it. If they were to openly ask for feedback, they feel as if they are opening themselves to attack. Unfortunately, this attitude only reinforces itself and before long, insecure leaders can’t improve their leadership.

Insecure leaders also stop giving feedback. They feel that if they provide bad feedback to somebody, that person could turn around and give it right back. Instead, what we normally see is complete silence, where no feedback is given in either direction!

5. An insecure leader tells people how to do their job

Directive leadership is all about commanding your team. It has its place, for certain. However, some insecure leaders use this style all the time because it’s harder for people to disagree. It reduces the chance that someone will feel they can “talk back” to the leader.

“Just do what I say” is code for “I’m scared that I’m wrong and I don’t want anyone to tell me that.”

Learn more about directive leadership here.

6. An insecure leader avoids confrontation

Some insecure leaders will avoid addressing issues that may result in conflict. This is because if they can avoid a fight entirely, they can avoid being wrong.

This results in a team where long-running problems never go away. The root of this problem is that the insecure leader feels that if a confrontation were to occur, they would lose. Then they would lose the respect of their team.

7. An insecure leader won’t ask questions, even when they don’t understand

One of the traditional problems of leadership is that leaders should “know it all”. They are meant to know more than their team, which is why they have more responsibility. Some insecure leaders don’t like to ask questions because it shows others that they may not know something.

Unfortunately, often it is painfully obvious when a leader does not know what he is talking about. In reality, there is nothing wrong with asking questions to improve your understanding.

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8. An insecure leader micromanages people

Insecure leaders love control. Why? Because when they control situations, they can reduce the chance that they will be exposed. Micromanagement is one way to keep control by directing your team as to how they should do things.

Before long, the insecure leader has convinced her team that their opinions don’t matter. They will start to avoid thinking for themselves. When this happens, the likelihood that a team member will challenge her is slim. This makes the insecure leader feel safe.

Read more about why micromanagement will lead to failure.

9. An insecure leader takes credit for the team’s achievements

Insecure leaders like to take credit for the work of their team. Not because it makes them feel good, but because it makes them seem important. When an insecure leader takes credit, they appear more valuable and more necessary.

Taking the credit is not about glory for an insecure leader, it is a way to reduce the risk of being “found out”.

10. An insecure leader gets angry when their team members resign

When a team member resigns, it can be stressful for an insecure leader.

Was it my fault? Did I do something wrong? Am I a bad leader?

Instead of processing these feelings positively, an insecure leader will feel angry.

They are so ungrateful. They have no loyalty. They don’t know how good they’ve got it.

This helps the insecure leader focus on the faults of others, rather than analysing their own feelings. This way, they feel safe. It’s not my fault. It is their fault.

Pay attention to this list. Sometimes you’ll find yourself resorting to insecure behaviour without even knowing it. Just because you feel insecure, does not mean that you need to act that way. You are in control of your actions, even if you don’t feel confident all the time.

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